We all struggle with love– in its various forms, and that is why over the last 2 1/2 years, I’ve been blogging about it. Essentially, this blog has been a very public journal while I’ve gone in search of my father, become a big sister, dealt with the aftermath of my own divorce and the challenges of dating in the 21st century, all while playing mom and trying to be a superstar attorney. Many of my friends have recently asked me, “how do you do it all?” Well, I guess I never bought into the notion that you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
The fact is life is not easy for anyone, but I’ve had the distinct advantage over the last 15 years as a divorce attorney to learn from some of the worse mistakes people make in life. By sharing your stories, you’ve all helped me avoid some major disasters in my own life. I’ve had a front row seat to some of the worse train wrecks in town, and after witnessing so much carnage, I was able to make some very difficult choices early on in my own life in the hopes of steering my train in a different direction.
Honestly, I no longer know in which direction I am heading, but I have learned to just enjoy the journey and not worry about the final destination. I’m having a ton of fun with my creative writing, and this blog allows me finally do some data dump, where I can essentially share some of my best love tips with others– and then I get to track what interests people the most. The results clearly show that people are just as interested in the process of finding love as losing it.
Here is my theory on love, which I actually turned into a poem when I was in high school: Love is like a snowflake, seemingly simple and pure– but if you try to hold it, it melts.
Love morphs over time, just as we change. You either change together, or you don’t, and it is really hard to predict what the outcome will be. All you can do is try your best. In the meantime, here are some of the past blogs many of you seem to really enjoy:
1. A Puzzle That Took 38 Years to Complete;
2. Top 10 Signs You Are Falling Out of Love;
3. When Planners Date Non-Planners;
4. Can’t Expect A Fish To Climb A Tree;
5. The Phases of Dating;
6. Getting Rid of Self-Doubt;
7. Dealing with Commitment Phobes;
8. Is Monogamy Dying Out?
9. The Importance of Sharing Stories;
10. Why Women Date Inappropriate Men
11. Dealing with an Identity Crisis; and
12. Learning to Compartmentalize.
BTW, I really do appreciate when people write in with questions or ideas, and clearly I’ve managed to not reveal my sources all this time– it’s part of my training in maintaining confidentiality. So, while I continue to compile all this data for my book, I hope you enjoy the stories and feel free to email me at: genxsmartie@gmail.com
