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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

2202, 2017

Are Your Kids’ Clothes Disappearing Into a Black Hole?

By | February 22nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I know for some of you this is going to sound petty, but for a bunch of you single parents it may come as a bit of comedic relief to read this and realize you are not alone.  Divorced parents fight about clothes a lot-- it just never gets to the point that anyone raises this issue to a judge, mainly because let's face it the price of going to court could buy your child's clothes for about a decade [...]

1802, 2017

Marriage- What’s Love Got To Do With It?

By | February 18th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Love does not conquer all, I'm sorry to say.  Every single one of my divorce clients started out in love when they first said their vows.  But staying in sync with your partner is not easy, especially over the years as you weather life's storms that often include illness, financial loss, family drama, career setbacks, or quite simply a change of heart as to your priorities. Marriage is about commi [...]

1602, 2017

In Honor Of No Immigrants Day

By | February 16th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I had court today, so I could not just take the day off, but if you saw me reading the Express on the Metro when it showed that Jose Andres (who is from my father's country) was closing some of his restaurants in the area today, you would have seen the biggest grin on my face-- it went from ear to ear. After court, as I ran some errands, I walked by a McDonald's that was closed today.  I was so pr [...]

502, 2017

Can You Reclaim Valentine’s Day As Your Own?

By | February 5th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Valentine's Day is right around the corner, and chances are that if you're single, you may be dreading this Hallmark holiday-- but what if you could reclaim this day as your own? The reality is that about 20% of the U.S. population will never marry, and of the 80% that do half will get divorced.  Among the 40% that remain married, it is believed that only half of those are happily married, which m [...]

2401, 2017

Reflections After The Women’s March

By | January 24th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Title IX was passed in 1972, the year that I was born.  A year later, Roe v. Wade lifted the ban on abortions in the U.S.  3 years later, Nadia Comaneci scored the first perfect 10 at the Olympics in the history of gymnastics and captured the hearts of fans around the world.  Then, in 1981 Sandra Day O'Connor was sworn in as the first female Supreme Court Justice.  It is no wonder then, that I, al [...]

1601, 2017

Do You Need Some Ideas For A Romantic Getaway?

By | January 16th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Whether you have been married for over a decade, or only been dating a few months, it is important to carve out some time for a romantic getaway, and you don't need to spend a fortune.  If you want to wait for a last-minute deal, there are plenty of those available, or if you are more of a planner, you can take your time shopping around for a cheap flight and/or hotel deal. Either way, you don't e [...]

1401, 2017

What Is Financial Infidelity?

By | January 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Financial infidelity is not a legal ground for divorce anywhere that I'm aware of, but just because it may not be illegal doesn't make it right. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should do it.  Let me give you some examples of what financial infidelity looks like: Scenario 1 You and your spouse have agreed not to incur any expense over $300 without consulting each other.  But then [...]

1301, 2017

Are You Drifting Apart From Your Partner?

By | January 13th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

We've all had moments where we seem to just instantly connect with someone-- there's good chemistry, witty banter, and lots of common interests.  When you are both on your "A game," it is very easy to keep this going for quite a while.  This is what we call the honeymoon phase, and the reason everyone says "enjoy it while it lasts" is because we all know that eventually, real life creeps in and ab [...]

1201, 2017

Are You Ready To De-clutter Emotionally?

By | January 12th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

23 years ago, I graduated from college with nothing but debt, and blind faith I suppose that as time went on I would be able to dig myself out of the red while pursing a fulfilling legal career.  Admittedly, there was not a lot of opportunity for self-reflection those first 15 years after graduation-- the pressures of law school and then work, coupled with the demands of marriage and parenting lef [...]

901, 2017

If We Split, Will The Kids Be Okay?

By | January 9th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The number one question all parents struggle with during a divorce is this: how will our split impact the kids?  The short answer is that it all depends on how well the parents handle the whole situation.  If you have two child-focused parents that are willing to put aside their anger and disappointment towards each other to work on a parenting plan that minimizes the losses to the kids, then most [...]

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