Regina’s Blog 2017-02-22T18:43:44+00:00

Regina's Blog

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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

1304, 2017

Are You Ready For Spring Cleaning?

By | April 13th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

After a few months of winter hibernation, I think most of us look forward to the arrival of spring. In DC, we are surrounded by beautiful blooms, including the famous cherry blossoms, and now we see many more people out and about along the hiking trails or dining outdoors, while enjoying the milder climates.  And with each spring, there's always the added joy of celebrating Easter and/or Passover [...]

3103, 2017

Are You Wondering “Why Me?”

By | March 31st, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Every week I meet someone who asks, "why me?" as we sit and discuss their break up.  Let me tell you that after 18 years, sometimes the answer is quite obvious, and I have to sit and bite my tongue while I re-direct their attention to the legal issues that I need to address as their lawyer.  But other times, it's not so obvious, and so I probe further so I can get a better understanding of the ove [...]

2603, 2017

Are You Getting Things Done, Your Way?

By | March 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Let's face it- divorce sucks, even when you do it my way: privately, quietly and quickly.  To start life over again, flying solo, is not what most of us had planned to do in our 30's, 40's or beyond... but so what?  Life rarely plays out exactly how we expected it to, and over half of us, either because of death or divorce, will have to learn as adults to redefine what it means to live happily eve [...]

2003, 2017

What Happened To Collaborative?

By | March 20th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Litigation is the opposite of collaborative-- we do not exchange information voluntarily or have 4-way meetings while breaking bread together and engaging in open discussions focused on reaching a settlement. When we are in a court process, there are multiple rules and deadlines, formal questions or requests are made, and statements are taken under oath. A lot depends on strategy, and quite a bit [...]

403, 2017

Are You Worried About Parental Alienation?

By | March 4th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

All separated parents probably have some pretty unflattering things to say about each other, which is why they are no longer together.  But, good parents try their best to filter their thoughts so that at least in front of the children they are not broadcasting those negative opinions. Parents that fail to do so, then fall into two categories: those that knowingly denigrate the other parent, and t [...]

2702, 2017

Are You Paying It Forward?

By | February 27th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Sometimes, you just can't pay back an act of kindness.  For example, a stranger pays you a compliment and then gets off the elevator, someone anonymously donates to your cause, or a passerby sets you in the right direction, and then disappears.  What do you do when that happens?  Some of you move on and consider yourself lucky that day, while others feel a tremendous obligation to pay the kindness [...]

2602, 2017

Is The Honeymoon Over?

By | February 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Most love stories start the same way-- you meet someone you find interesting, you have fun with one another, and you fall in love as each person does kind things for the other one.  You both show one another respect and build trust together.  You share similar interests and engage in fun activities together.  Everyone is on their best behavior as you meet each other's families and friends.  You fi [...]

2502, 2017

Did Your Ex Break Your Heart Or Your Wallet?

By | February 25th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Broken hearts are easy to fix-- it may take time to heal, but with the support of family and friends, you will get there. This is not only my personal experience, but what I have professionally observed for over 18 years with all of my divorce clients. However, if your ex broke your wallet, well that is a lot more difficult to recover from unfortunately, especially the closer you are to retirement [...]

2202, 2017

Are Your Kids’ Clothes Disappearing Into a Black Hole?

By | February 22nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

I know for some of you this is going to sound petty, but for a bunch of you single parents it may come as a bit of comedic relief to read this and realize you are not alone.  Divorced parents fight about clothes a lot-- it just never gets to the point that anyone raises this issue to a judge, mainly because let's face it the price of going to court could buy your child's clothes for about a decade [...]

1802, 2017

Marriage- What’s Love Got To Do With It?

By | February 18th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Love does not conquer all, I'm sorry to say.  Every single one of my divorce clients started out in love when they first said their vows.  But staying in sync with your partner is not easy, especially over the years as you weather life's storms that often include illness, financial loss, family drama, career setbacks, or quite simply a change of heart as to your priorities. Marriage is about commi [...]

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