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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

1012, 2016

Why Do The Holidays Create A Perfect Storm?

By | December 10th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

As a child, I loved when the holiday season approached-- starting in November, New York City would transform into a spectacular place with all the streets adorned with wreaths, lights, and beautiful bows.  Walking along Fifth Avenue with my mom, I was mesmerized by the store displays, which were almost magical, and the tree at Rockefeller Center was truly a sight to behold with all the ice skaters [...]

612, 2016

Are You Re-Discovering Yourself?

By | December 6th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , |

We all make sacrifices when we are in a relationship in the interest of promoting greater harmony with our significant others.  Maybe we don't spend as much time with our family or friends, or we give up on certain activities that don't appeal to our partners.  Perhaps we let them do certain things for us because they enjoy doing it more, or we take on tasks that we don't necessarily like in order [...]

3011, 2016

Are You Holding Yourself Accountable?

By | November 30th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , |

The past 90 days, I decided to do an experiment and keep a log of every single expense I incurred each month.  I wanted to check and see if I was sticking to a realistic budget, and also identify areas where I might be able to cut unnecessary spending.  So, each and every day, I logged how much I spent, whether I paid cash or put in on my credit card, and at the end of each month I lumped them int [...]

2511, 2016

Funny Ah-ha Moments

By | November 25th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , |

Ah-ha moments are pretty common in the divorce process.  One of my favorites, is that moment when you realize that you can do something you previously relied on your ex to do for you.  Mine involved the incineration of a hive of wasps, which I discovered inside the grill just as I was about to host my last BBQ at the marital home. My initial reaction was to call my ex for help, but he responded by [...]

2211, 2016

This Thanksgiving, What Are You Grateful For?

By | November 22nd, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Thanksgiving is just a few days away, and this year in particular I hope we can all take some time during the long holiday weekend to reflect on what we do have in our lives, and express gratitude to all those that matter to us. I realize that many are still stinging from the election results that came as a shock to those of us in the East and West coast bubbles. Many not just here, but around the [...]

1711, 2016

What Kids Really Need From Divorced Parents During the Holidays

By | November 17th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Divorced parents have a tendency to feel guilty that because they couldn't work things out with their former partners, their children must now shuffle back and forth between two homes.  Especially during the holidays, this guilt seems to kick into overdrive for some, along with regret that certain traditions will no longer continue.  But let's think about-- would they be better off in a house full [...]

711, 2016

Out With The Old, In With The New

By | November 7th, 2016|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The new year is right around the corner, and this is a perfect time to throw out unnecessary or unwanted parts of our past to make room for what the new year will bring.  I personally have been on a roll since this summer, when I finally made time to sort through 21 boxes of old client files in storage that needed to be shredded.  Once this was done, I felt so much better-- and I decided to contin [...]

311, 2016

5 Reasons To Get A Prenup

By | November 3rd, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Ever since the Great Recession, I have seen a dramatic increase in prenups-- especially among young couples that have never been married before.  While they may not have much to protect at this time, they are a forward-thinking group that want to protect future interests and minimize any losses.   Here are the top reasons Millennials ask me to draft their prenuptial agreements before exchanging th [...]

111, 2016

5 Tips To Survive A Divorce

By | November 1st, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , |

When things are falling apart, people are at their worst-- they are scared, anxious, angry, and deeply disappointed in the present set of circumstances that they find themselves in. It is my job as the attorney to calm things down, give them a roadmap, and help them see a light at the end of the tunnel. Most of my divorce cases are concluded within 12 months, and after observing my clients cycle t [...]

2810, 2016

5 Terrible Reasons To Get Engaged

By | October 28th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , |

With the holidays approaching, this is a very popular time of year for couples to get engaged while surrounded by family and friends-- but just make sure you are doing for the right reasons, and not because you have fallen in love with the idea of getting married.   Remember, the party only lasts a day, but the commitment is supposed to last a lifetime, in both good and bad times.  While none of u [...]

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