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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

1601, 2017

Do You Need Some Ideas For A Romantic Getaway?

By | January 16th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Whether you have been married for over a decade, or only been dating a few months, it is important to carve out some time for a romantic getaway, and you don't need to spend a fortune.  If you want to wait for a last-minute deal, there are plenty of those available, or if you are more of a planner, you can take your time shopping around for a cheap flight and/or hotel deal. Either way, you don't e [...]

1401, 2017

What Is Financial Infidelity?

By | January 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Financial infidelity is not a legal ground for divorce anywhere that I'm aware of, but just because it may not be illegal doesn't make it right. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should do it.  Let me give you some examples of what financial infidelity looks like: Scenario 1 You and your spouse have agreed not to incur any expense over $300 without consulting each other.  But then [...]

1301, 2017

Are You Drifting Apart From Your Partner?

By | January 13th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

We've all had moments where we seem to just instantly connect with someone-- there's good chemistry, witty banter, and lots of common interests.  When you are both on your "A game," it is very easy to keep this going for quite a while.  This is what we call the honeymoon phase, and the reason everyone says "enjoy it while it lasts" is because we all know that eventually, real life creeps in and ab [...]

1201, 2017

Are You Ready To De-clutter Emotionally?

By | January 12th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

23 years ago, I graduated from college with nothing but debt, and blind faith I suppose that as time went on I would be able to dig myself out of the red while pursing a fulfilling legal career.  Admittedly, there was not a lot of opportunity for self-reflection those first 15 years after graduation-- the pressures of law school and then work, coupled with the demands of marriage and parenting lef [...]

901, 2017

If We Split, Will The Kids Be Okay?

By | January 9th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

The number one question all parents struggle with during a divorce is this: how will our split impact the kids?  The short answer is that it all depends on how well the parents handle the whole situation.  If you have two child-focused parents that are willing to put aside their anger and disappointment towards each other to work on a parenting plan that minimizes the losses to the kids, then most [...]

501, 2017

When Calling It Quits, How Will You Play Your Hand?

By | January 5th, 2017|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

With the holidays behind us, many couples will come to the conclusion this month that it's time to call it quits.  It's never an easy call to make, but you know it's the right thing to do when the tension at home is simply unbearable, and the weight of all the anger or sadness you are carrying inside feels like barbells tied to your feet that are making you sink deeper and deeper into a sea of des [...]

3012, 2016

What’s Your NYE Resolution?

By | December 30th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , |

Finally, 2016 is almost over.  It's certainly been a difficult year for many, and the biggest take-away for me is a very simple one: there is so much that is just outside of our direct control.  As frustrating as that fact may be, the sooner you can accept it, the sooner you can focus on that which is within your control.  With that in mind, here are 4 key areas in our lives that we can strive to [...]

2212, 2016

Will Your Christmas Be Merry And Bright?

By | December 22nd, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , |

There is a Buddhist saying, "no expectations, no disappointments."  If you embrace this motto for the holidays, and just focus your energy on relaxing and enjoying time with family and friends, then you actually stand a great chance of having a merry and bright Christmas. I'll admit that it took me a long time to appreciate the wisdom in having zero expectations, but something I did take to heart [...]

2012, 2016

Are You Struggling With Motherhood?

By | December 20th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , , |

Motherhood is an amazing and transformative experience that inevitably causes you to re-think your priorities, relationships, and definition of success. As part of that process, many of us that graduated college 20 years ago or more, have struggled with balancing our child's needs with our own career objectives. Most of my friends have continued to be high-achievers at work, while some have scaled [...]

1512, 2016

What Are You Giving Others This Holiday Season?

By | December 15th, 2016|Categories: Blog, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , |

There are now just 10 days until Christmas, and if you are a planner like me, then all your cards have been mailed, and the gifts have already been shipped or wrapped and waiting for you to hand-deliver them to loved ones.  If instead you are more of a last minute type, well hopefully you will get it together within the next week.  But either way, I hope you find some time to do something for some [...]

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