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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

2605, 2017

5 Questions to Ask Before Saying “I Do”

By | May 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Wedding season is now upon us, and on average each U.S. couple tying the knot will spend in excess of $30,000 for their big day. While it is easy to get caught up in all the details and the overall excitement, it is important to talk through some major issues. Here are the top 5 hot-topics I ask couples to think about before they say their vows: 1. Wedding Budget – Are you in agreement on the numb [...]

1205, 2017

What Makes or Breaks a Relationship?

By | May 12th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Yesterday, on the Washington Post Express FB Live segment of Baggage Check, I got to cover major issues that come up for couples with respect to money.  But hopefully it is clear that money is just the topic, and the real issue is usually something much deeper like a need for safety and security, transparency, honesty and not having someone dictate terms.  In order to understand the real issues at [...]

705, 2017

Can You Rise Strong?

By | May 7th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Every day I see victims of horrible occurrences transform into strong survivors that overcome life's setbacks and move forward with formidable courage that inspires everyone else around them. This is what I love most about being a divorce lawyer-- not just seeing this metamorphosis, but actually being a central part of it. For over 18 years, I have essentially been collecting data on (a) what caus [...]

2604, 2017

How Does A Love Story Turn Into A Nightmare?

By | April 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Remember as kids we would see some children burst into a puddle of tears over a paper cut while others remained stoic even when a broken bone might be sticking completely out of place? That's because even at an early age we are all exhibit varying degrees of pain tolerance-- and that remains true in adulthood. What each of us is willing to accept in a relationship is unique to our own level of tol [...]

2304, 2017

Why The Growing Lack of Civility?

By | April 23rd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

At the risk of sounding old school and not very hip, I really am concerned about my fellow GenXers and those that are trailing us, for many reasons but at the top of my list is an increasing lack of civility. Just look at how people have been treated on airplanes the last few weeks if you have any doubt that there is serious reason for concern. Here are 3 of the main factors that I see leading to [...]

2204, 2017

How Well Can You Manage The Chaos Around You?

By | April 22nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Life is unpredictable, and for some that is a beautiful thing, but for others it's a very scary reality. Those in the former category take it as an adventure and find the challenging twists and turns exciting or intriguing, whereas those in the latter category prefer to retreat into a safe corner and try to cocoon. Between these two extreme positions, there's obviously a lot of room for varying de [...]

1404, 2017

How Much Are You Willing To Put Up With?

By | April 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's not easy to share space with someone, even those you love.  We all have different ways of doing things-- our own habits, preferences and daily routines.  For example, some of us cannot stand seeing a mess, while others absolutely don't care if they live in squalor.  Some of us need absolute peace and quiet at times, while others need constant background noise.  Some of us cannot stand the sig [...]

1304, 2017

Are You Ready For Spring Cleaning?

By | April 13th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

After a few months of winter hibernation, I think most of us look forward to the arrival of spring. In DC, we are surrounded by beautiful blooms, including the famous cherry blossoms, and now we see many more people out and about along the hiking trails or dining outdoors, while enjoying the milder climates.  And with each spring, there's always the added joy of celebrating Easter and/or Passover [...]

3103, 2017

Are You Wondering “Why Me?”

By | March 31st, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Every week I meet someone who asks, "why me?" as we sit and discuss their break up.  Let me tell you that after 18 years, sometimes the answer is quite obvious, and I have to sit and bite my tongue while I re-direct their attention to the legal issues that I need to address as their lawyer.  But other times, it's not so obvious, and so I probe further so I can get a better understanding of the ove [...]

2603, 2017

Are You Getting Things Done, Your Way?

By | March 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Let's face it- divorce sucks, even when you do it my way: privately, quietly and quickly.  To start life over again, flying solo, is not what most of us had planned to do in our 30's, 40's or beyond... but so what?  Life rarely plays out exactly how we expected it to, and over half of us, either because of death or divorce, will have to learn as adults to redefine what it means to live happily eve [...]

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