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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

906, 2017

Do Desperate Times Call For Desperate Measures?

By | June 9th, 2017|Categories: Blog|

When a relationship is unraveling, and you no longer feel safe or that you can trust your partner, you need to stop listening to the empty promises that person keeps making and start taking some measures to protect yourself. What does this look like? Here are just a few examples: Separate Your Bank Accounts If each month, you keep depositing your entire paycheck into a joint account, and each mont [...]

806, 2017

5 Small Habits That Can Kill A Relationship

By | June 8th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

We can all agree on some major reasons to call it quits, like infidelity, abuse, or engaging in reckless behavior that endangers the lives of others, but here are 5 small habits that can eventually cause good people to part ways:  1.Going global- if in the heat of the moment you say to your partner things like "you never load the dishwasher" or "you always forget to throw out the trash" you basica [...]

406, 2017

Can You Spot The Different Types of Abuse?

By | June 4th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Every week I encounter someone trying to escape an abusive relationship.  Unfortunately in law school I was only taught to identify two clear types of abuse: physical or sexual abuse, both of which are clearly defined and easily identified as acts involving unwanted touching.  But the fact is I rarely encounter those in my divorce cases, and the far more prevalent forms of abuse are (i)  emotional [...]

206, 2017

Do You Need To Lawyer Up?

By | June 2nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Lawyers are expensive, we can all agree on that fact.  But if you were never  trained as an attorney and now find yourself in need of legal assistance, the question you really need to ask yourself is can I afford to forego using an attorney?  Only you know what is really at stake, and how well you think you can advocate for yourself or whether you believe you will be able to keep up with all the r [...]

3005, 2017

Are You Missing The Point?

By | May 30th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Dating in the 21st century has never been easier--you don't even have to leave your house to explore options and start a conversation with someone that might be interesting.  It's also super easy to stay connected without much of an effort, just by liking a few posts on Instagram or Facebook or sending a quick text maybe not even with words, just an emoji to let someone know you are thinking of hi [...]

2605, 2017

5 Questions to Ask Before Saying “I Do”

By | May 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Wedding season is now upon us, and on average each U.S. couple tying the knot will spend in excess of $30,000 for their big day. While it is easy to get caught up in all the details and the overall excitement, it is important to talk through some major issues. Here are the top 5 hot-topics I ask couples to think about before they say their vows: 1. Wedding Budget – Are you in agreement on the numb [...]

1205, 2017

What Makes or Breaks a Relationship?

By | May 12th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Yesterday, on the Washington Post Express FB Live segment of Baggage Check, I got to cover major issues that come up for couples with respect to money.  But hopefully it is clear that money is just the topic, and the real issue is usually something much deeper like a need for safety and security, transparency, honesty and not having someone dictate terms.  In order to understand the real issues at [...]

705, 2017

Can You Rise Strong?

By | May 7th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Every day I see victims of horrible occurrences transform into strong survivors that overcome life's setbacks and move forward with formidable courage that inspires everyone else around them. This is what I love most about being a divorce lawyer-- not just seeing this metamorphosis, but actually being a central part of it. For over 18 years, I have essentially been collecting data on (a) what caus [...]

2604, 2017

How Does A Love Story Turn Into A Nightmare?

By | April 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Remember as kids we would see some children burst into a puddle of tears over a paper cut while others remained stoic even when a broken bone might be sticking completely out of place? That's because even at an early age we are all exhibit varying degrees of pain tolerance-- and that remains true in adulthood. What each of us is willing to accept in a relationship is unique to our own level of tol [...]

2304, 2017

Why The Growing Lack of Civility?

By | April 23rd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

At the risk of sounding old school and not very hip, I really am concerned about my fellow GenXers and those that are trailing us, for many reasons but at the top of my list is an increasing lack of civility. Just look at how people have been treated on airplanes the last few weeks if you have any doubt that there is serious reason for concern. Here are 3 of the main factors that I see leading to [...]

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