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GenXSmartie

This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

2604, 2017

How Does A Love Story Turn Into A Nightmare?

By | April 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Remember as kids we would see some children burst into a puddle of tears over a paper cut while others remained stoic even when a broken bone might be sticking completely out of place? That's because even at an early age we are all exhibit varying degrees of pain tolerance-- and that remains true in adulthood. What each of us is willing to accept in a relationship is unique to our own level of tol [...]

2304, 2017

Why The Growing Lack of Civility?

By | April 23rd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

At the risk of sounding old school and not very hip, I really am concerned about my fellow GenXers and those that are trailing us, for many reasons but at the top of my list is an increasing lack of civility. Just look at how people have been treated on airplanes the last few weeks if you have any doubt that there is serious reason for concern. Here are 3 of the main factors that I see leading to [...]

2204, 2017

How Well Can You Manage The Chaos Around You?

By | April 22nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

Life is unpredictable, and for some that is a beautiful thing, but for others it's a very scary reality. Those in the former category take it as an adventure and find the challenging twists and turns exciting or intriguing, whereas those in the latter category prefer to retreat into a safe corner and try to cocoon. Between these two extreme positions, there's obviously a lot of room for varying de [...]

1404, 2017

How Much Are You Willing To Put Up With?

By | April 14th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

It's not easy to share space with someone, even those you love.  We all have different ways of doing things-- our own habits, preferences and daily routines.  For example, some of us cannot stand seeing a mess, while others absolutely don't care if they live in squalor.  Some of us need absolute peace and quiet at times, while others need constant background noise.  Some of us cannot stand the sig [...]

1304, 2017

Are You Ready For Spring Cleaning?

By | April 13th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

After a few months of winter hibernation, I think most of us look forward to the arrival of spring. In DC, we are surrounded by beautiful blooms, including the famous cherry blossoms, and now we see many more people out and about along the hiking trails or dining outdoors, while enjoying the milder climates.  And with each spring, there's always the added joy of celebrating Easter and/or Passover [...]

3103, 2017

Are You Wondering “Why Me?”

By | March 31st, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Every week I meet someone who asks, "why me?" as we sit and discuss their break up.  Let me tell you that after 18 years, sometimes the answer is quite obvious, and I have to sit and bite my tongue while I re-direct their attention to the legal issues that I need to address as their lawyer.  But other times, it's not so obvious, and so I probe further so I can get a better understanding of the ove [...]

2603, 2017

Are You Getting Things Done, Your Way?

By | March 26th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

Let's face it- divorce sucks, even when you do it my way: privately, quietly and quickly.  To start life over again, flying solo, is not what most of us had planned to do in our 30's, 40's or beyond... but so what?  Life rarely plays out exactly how we expected it to, and over half of us, either because of death or divorce, will have to learn as adults to redefine what it means to live happily eve [...]

2003, 2017

What Happened To Collaborative?

By | March 20th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Litigation is the opposite of collaborative-- we do not exchange information voluntarily or have 4-way meetings while breaking bread together and engaging in open discussions focused on reaching a settlement. When we are in a court process, there are multiple rules and deadlines, formal questions or requests are made, and statements are taken under oath. A lot depends on strategy, and quite a bit [...]

403, 2017

Are You Worried About Parental Alienation?

By | March 4th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

All separated parents probably have some pretty unflattering things to say about each other, which is why they are no longer together.  But, good parents try their best to filter their thoughts so that at least in front of the children they are not broadcasting those negative opinions. Parents that fail to do so, then fall into two categories: those that knowingly denigrate the other parent, and t [...]

2702, 2017

Are You Paying It Forward?

By | February 27th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Sometimes, you just can't pay back an act of kindness.  For example, a stranger pays you a compliment and then gets off the elevator, someone anonymously donates to your cause, or a passerby sets you in the right direction, and then disappears.  What do you do when that happens?  Some of you move on and consider yourself lucky that day, while others feel a tremendous obligation to pay the kindness [...]

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