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This is a blog about relationships, and it covers dating, marriage, parenting, modern family dynamics and divorce as seen from the very personal perspective of a divorced divorce lawyer.

1910, 2017

Will You Join The #Me Too Movement Or Are You Going To Stay Quiet?

By | October 19th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

As stories have continued to emerge over the past two weeks shedding new light on the rampant experience women have with harassment and sexual assault, many of us have had to grapple with the issue of speaking up about painful episodes from our past or staying silent and quietly battling those ghosts that have now be resurrected by the media and haunt our daily thoughts.  While neither choice is r [...]

2209, 2017

How Do You Switch From Being A Yuppie To Hippie?

By | September 22nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I don't think most yuppies transform into hippies overnight.  Those of us that go the corporate/law firm route after grad school tend to embrace a certain look, gravitate towards urban dwellings and maintain an intense life style for many years.  We work hard, then play hard.  And during this phase of our lives, huge sums of money are spent not just on impressive homes, but also on expensive cars, [...]

2009, 2017

What Crap Are You Holding Onto?

By | September 20th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

After a bad break-up, it's normal for feelings of disappointment, sadness, anger or betrayal to linger for a while. It's okay to vent these feelings with those you trust, or write them in a journal until finally you've got it all out of your system. But hopefully at some point you realize enough is enough-- you have to move on, and to do that you need let go of all those heavy thoughts weighing yo [...]

409, 2017

5 Things Your Kids Learn From Travel

By | September 4th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

When I was 9, my grandmother took me to visit her family in South America. That was a memorable trip for me mostly because I was not prepared for the immense poverty and huge disparity between the haves and have-nots. Then as a teenager in the 1980's, I was given special permission to travel to Eastern Europe during the Cold War to train with some of their top athletes. That was another huge cultu [...]

2007, 2017

Can You See The Silver-Lining Of Divorce?

By | July 20th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Whether your marriage lasted six months or thirty years, parting ways is never easy because of the maelstrom of emotions evoked once either party announces that s/he is done trying to work things out. Simply put, admitting failure isn't easy for anyone, and accepting that all your dreams of a happily-ever-after with your spouse are not ever going to come true is a hard and bitter pill to swallow. [...]

906, 2017

Do Desperate Times Call For Desperate Measures?

By | June 9th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

When a relationship is unraveling, and you no longer feel safe or that you can trust your partner, you need to stop listening to the empty promises that person keeps making and start taking some measures to protect yourself. What does this look like? Here are just a few examples: Separate Your Bank Accounts If each month, you keep depositing your entire paycheck into a joint account, and each mont [...]

806, 2017

5 Small Habits That Can Kill A Relationship

By | June 8th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

We can all agree on some major reasons to call it quits, like infidelity, abuse, or engaging in reckless behavior that endangers the lives of others, but here are 5 small habits that can eventually cause good people to part ways:  1.Going global- if in the heat of the moment you say to your partner things like "you never load the dishwasher" or "you always forget to throw out the trash" you basica [...]

406, 2017

Can You Spot The Different Types of Abuse?

By | June 4th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Every week I encounter someone trying to escape an abusive relationship.  Unfortunately in law school I was only taught to identify two clear types of abuse: physical or sexual abuse, both of which are clearly defined and easily identified as acts involving unwanted touching.  But the fact is I rarely encounter those in my divorce cases, and the far more prevalent forms of abuse are (i)  emotional [...]

206, 2017

Do You Need To Lawyer Up?

By | June 2nd, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Lawyers are expensive, we can all agree on that fact.  But if you were never  trained as an attorney and now find yourself in need of legal assistance, the question you really need to ask yourself is can I afford to forego using an attorney?  Only you know what is really at stake, and how well you think you can advocate for yourself or whether you believe you will be able to keep up with all the r [...]

3005, 2017

Are You Missing The Point?

By | May 30th, 2017|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

Dating in the 21st century has never been easier--you don't even have to leave your house to explore options and start a conversation with someone that might be interesting.  It's also super easy to stay connected without much of an effort, just by liking a few posts on Instagram or Facebook or sending a quick text maybe not even with words, just an emoji to let someone know you are thinking of hi [...]

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